Resources for Bi-, Pan-, Demi-, and A-sexuality

Writing about bisexuality frustrates me, because I feel that the existence of bisexuality should be obvious to anyone who accepts both hetero- and homosexual identities as real. Unfortunately, some people still think our existence needs to be scientifically assessed before they’ll believe we exist. If you don’t understand bisexuality and have questions, please realize that many of your most common questions are incredibly hurtful and offensive. answers a number of them here and includes the perspectives of multiple bi individuals as well as a general response. Looking for a list of some of the most common myths about bisexuality and a brief teardown of each? Try this post which has its own list of references at the bottom. Jay the Nerd Kid addresses a number of assumptions people make about bisexuals in So You Just Met a Bisexual: a Guide for Allies (and “Allies”). Bisexual women who are in relationships with men (exclusively or otherwise) discuss some common forms of erasure and biphobia here. Looking for something from the perspective of a bisexual man? Seth Fischer’s Notes from a Unicorn is a good article to start with. Girl on the Net provides an eloquent reminder not to dismiss people’s sexual identities. Finally, On the Bisexual: Their Care and Feeding by Nico Deyo is just fun.

Asexuality and demisexuality are not terms applicable to me. As a borderline nymphomaniac, I have zero ability to relate. But I’m going to toss out some links anyway because it’s important. Asexuality is a valid sexual identity. It’s important to realize that there are people who just aren’t into sex, or who don’t prioritize it, or who form sexual attractions rarely, slowly, or differently than those of us who identify as sexual. They’re not repressed, they don’t have issues, they’re just asexual. is the first resource I’d point out, as well as the wiki for the same site. There’s a brief series of articles on Huffington Post that’s worth a read. Myths and misconceptions abound. They’ve been discussed at length by folks better qualified than me. I recommend Queereka’s 13 Myths and Misconceptions about Asexual People.


[More and better resources coming soon, I promise]

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